We have had a busy time since my last post.
MrsM came home from Kabul. We went to Lapland to see Father Christmas. And we had a quiet family Christmas.
Is there such a thing?
Our quiet Christmas consists of:
- awake at 0800
- open stocking (from Father Christmas)
- breakfast (with Bucks Fizz for adults)
- free-time until lunch
- 1300 Lunch
- 1500 (ish) finish lunch, clear table and start to distribute presents under the tree
- 1800 (ish) finish distributing presents.
- 2200 bed
This may seem like a fairly loose timetable. But let me tell you, there is no TV factored in. On Christmas Day in our household, TV does not make an appearance. We have carols and Christmas music playing, but no TV.
MiniM did very well on the present front. Thanks to family and friends who sent presents.
But it’s always a stressful time at Christmas. What do you buy your children? What does Father Christmas bring? (We’ll leave the Father Christmas argument for another day)
MiniM sat with the Argos catalogue and made her list in November. To be honest, she could just have given us the Argos catalogue and told us it was her Christmas list.
We had the endless stream of Christmas adverts on TV, with all the latest ‘must-haves’ and other shiny bits of plastic. These adverts were all aired on Childrens TV, so that the Children could deliver a good helping of guilt to the parents in the run up to Christmas.
MiniM was sent away and told to bring a list containing her top 10 ‘wants’. Now, for a 7 year old, MiniM is pretty financially aware. All of the items on her top 10 list were affordable and reasonable. I think she also knows not to ask for the TV for the bedroom (another topic for later) or any other high value, luxury goods.
So, on the big day, MiniM was not disappointed with her presents.
We are very lucky with MiniM. She understands that we don’t have a money tree at the bottom of the garden. She gets that she cant have it all. For that we are very thankful.
I was speaking to some parents recently who showered their children with all the latest iPads, and iPods and cameras, and TV’s and anything else the children asked for. These children are able to play the guilt cards on their parents really easily. Both parents work, and think that to compensate for them being away, working all the time, they had to buy the love of their children.
This is sowing the seeds for unhappy people later in life. Remember that saying -”Knowing the price of everything, but the value of nothing.”
If your children expect everything for nothing, then they won’t value what they have.
Children would be happy with a box. I remember when MiniM was a baby, the most played with item at Christmas was a box and a piece of wrapping paper. All the expensive toys were ignored.
With a little imagination, and with parents joining in a cardboard box can be anything you want it to be. A spaceship, a house for Barbie/Action Man, a boat, a costume, the possibilities are endless.
Children recognise the most valuable and priceless present you can give them, is time. Spend time with your Children, listen to the stories they tell, let them lead the adventure games, lose yourself in their imagination.
- Cardboard box – 5p
- 2 x plastic swords – £2.00
- 2 x plastic laser guns – £2.00
- Imagination – free
- Memories and laughter – Priceless.
Now, that’s something worth investing in.