I thought I would write this post about Children and eating, and any fads they may have.
By ‘Fads’, I am referring to not liking a particular food one week, but loving it the next.
I should make mention of allergies as well, although I am pleased to say that MiniM is allergic to nothing. Well, not that we know of.
When MiniM was born, MrsM and I talked about, amongst other things, discipline and food.
We had seen too many children of relatives and friends, who were ‘fussy eaters’, and these ‘fussy eaters’ made us quite cross.
We decided that, as far as possible, MiniM would eat what we ate, and we would always make her try something at least once before it was added to any ‘dislike’ list.
I say make, I mean encouraged. We didn’t hold her down and force feed her food. That would be cruel. And at least once meant just that. It had to be at least one proper try of the food. Not just a crumb, or licking the piece of food.
I find it amusing that MiniM still tries to bluff us, pull the wool over our eyes and generally try to ‘have us over’.
The conversation usually goes like this
- “I don’t like that”
- “Have you tried it?”
- “When? We have never had this before with you”
- “Do you know what it is?”
- “How do you know you don’t like it?”
- “Would you like to try some?”
- “Yes, but I won’t like it”
- Later “Can I have some more?”
MiniM is as predictable as she is cute, as I’m sure most children are.
But it this predictability that we as parents use to our advantage. We know that MiniM will react in a particular way to our question, so we are able to counter any arguments that she may use.
And it’s not just regarding food likes and dislikes. It’s about the whole ‘raising a child strategy’ Because that’s what it is. It has to be a strategy. You have to know what your aims and objectives are, what you are prepared to give up in negotiations, and what you will hold onto at all costs.
MiniM has a list of foods she won’t eat. The list is
We have tried her with mushrooms loads of times, but she just doesn’t like them. That doesn’t come as a huge surprise. Her big brother doesn’t like them, and I didn’t like them when I was younger. I was an adult before I would eat them (and garlic).
We are quite lucky that she eats mostly everything. But we started early. When she was weaning, we fed her what we were eating, but put through a blender.
And that is the key approach we took to our ‘parenting strategy’ – start early. And start as you mean to go on.
When MiniM was young, we said ‘No’ when we meant no. And we ensured that she knew it. And we ensured we were consistent in what we said to her.
Now, I just have to convince her that this Baked Alaska contains mushrooms.